Tuesday, February 23, 2010
February 23, 2010
I also want to mention that A, J and S are "1" letters, so if you're name begins with one of those letters you may possess some of those personality traits I mentioned i.e., leader, pioneer and so on. In a realtionship (this is where numerology gets really interesting!), having both parties with names beginning with a "1" letter can really be tough. For example, my sister and I both have first names that begin with a "1" letter. I'm an "A" and she's a "J". Many of our disputes derive from one of us wanting to be in the one-up position. And as a couple's therapist, I've seen this same dynamic with partners and spouses who jocky for dominance. This kind of struggle never leads to a happy resolution. For instance, I saw a couple some years ago in which both first names begian with "J" and there was a constant fight as to whom would have the final word. What they didn't understand was that backing down and yielding was not capitulation, but an expression of strength. What they needed to learn was that by toning down their reactivity to one another they would be one step closer towards creating possibility and change. As things were, there was no space or opening for them to get to a higher and more meaningful level. Their constant back and forth and parrying kept them imprisoned, so to speak, in a transformational cul de sac. There was simply no way out. Next time I check in, I'll talk about a "way out".